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HALACHA OF THE WEEK: Havdalah During the Nine Days While the Talmud records that there is a prohibition against eating meat and drinking wine only during the final meal before Tisha B'Av, by the time of the Shulchan Aruch, this prohibition was extended to the entire period between Rosh Chodesh Av and Tisha B'Av (the "nine days") [Taanit 26b, Orech Chaim 552:1].
But what about wine for havdalah? Rabbi Yosef Karo ruled that the prohibition of wine and meat never included these items when used for a mitzvah, such as Birkat haMazon and havdalah [551:10]. However, the Rema disagreed and ruled that Ashkenazim should not drink the wine for havdalah, giving it instead to a child. However, he does add that at a Seudat Mitzvah (e.g., a brit, pidyon haben, or siyum), wine and meat are permitted.
As noted in the Shulchan Aruch, the basis of the Rema's stringency is a responsum of the Maharil [#106]. But interestingly, this stringency is not found in that responsum. Rather, the Maharil writes that he never saw his teachers refrain from drinking wine for Havdala.
While several answers are offered to this dilemma, Rabbi Moshe Feinstein, z "l explained that the Rema's restriction was because, in his day, wine was a rare commodity. As a result, it was rare to use wine for havdalah, and to choose to do so during the nine days was inappropriate. However, nowadays, wine is commonly used for havdalah, and the practice is for an adult to drink the wine even if a child is present.
Despite this ruling of Rabbi Feinstein, many still follow the ruling of the Rema and give the havdalah wine to a child (or use an alternative beverage for havdalah). However, the Mishna Berura raises one more difficulty, and that is that the child who is drinking the wine must be old enough to understand the bracha but not yet reached the age of mourning over Yerushalayim [Mishna Berura 551:70].
As a result, Rabbi Avigdor Nebenzhal reported that Rabbi Shlomo Zalman Auerbach would drink the wine himself [Yerushalayim B'Moadeha, The Three Weeks, #167].
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MAZAL TOV * to Ariel and Dr. Rachel Allon on the birth of a son. The bris will be this Friday at Lincolnwood Jewish Congregation following the 7:00 am minyan. * to Rabbi Ari and Esther Maryles on the birth of a granddaughter. The proud parents and Ami and Dana Rosenfeld. * to Sarah Bernstein on being named one of the JUF 36 Under 36 list. * to Yoni and Aliza Aberman on the birth of a son. Mazal Tov to grandparents Shelly and Miriam Aberman. Special Mazal Tov to great grandparents Art and Sandy Aberman and Fred and Laura Krause. * to Lance and Tema Taxer on the birth of a granddaughter. The proud parents are Joey and Devorah Seif. * to Harold and Maureen Katz on the birth of a grandson, born Leah and Yizti Katz (Israel)
REFUAH SHLAIMA * to Esther Meyers who is in rehab at The Pearl in Elk Grove Village. * to Aliza and Yoni Aberman’s son who is at Lurie Children’s Hospital - HaTinok ben Aliza Leah
SPONSORS @ KINS To sponsor a Kiddush, Seuda Shlishit, or to donate to the Kiddush Fund or Learning Fund please click here. The Day of Learning, Shabbat, July 22nd, is sponsored by Rabbi Hillel and Faye Meyers in commemoration of the yahrtzeit of Faye’s father, Jack Broder – יעקב דוד בן משה ז"ל
Main Kiddush is sponsored by Alan and Jodi Gershman, Moish and Shoshie Kahn, and Dr. Shlomo and Stephanie Engelson in honor of our friend, Noa Yael Bruno. Kol Hakavod on her milestone of becoming a full member of Klal Yisrael.
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MONDAY NIGHT SEDER - 8:00-9:00pm Mondays
SEMICHAT CHAVER PROGRAM - Wednesdays @ 8:15pm 
SHABBAT WOMEN'S SHIUR - 5:00pm 
TALMUD CLASS – 45 minutes before mincha
SEFER YESHAYAHU - Sundays, 9:00pm